Ancient Guardian’s grandmother (would be around 120 if she was still alive) said that a lot. It was her standard response to arguments within the family. An Irish family. It was her way of saying they were fighting over trivialities instead of a real problem. It was not an encouragement to continue the fight, it was a disparagement. She had no regard for petty arguments blown out of proportion.
I relate that tidbit of information to introduce the thoughts that I have been having about the current tendency on social media to do things like language policing and gatekeeping. The tendency to say who is or is not gay. Who can use what words to describe their way of perceiving their experiencses.
“Stimming is a word for autistics only!” (Yup, some people actually said this!)
“No one can talk about spoon theory unless they have a chronic illness!” (this too! Actual people said it!)
“Only people approved by me can claim to be gay!” (hyperbole, in case it wasn’t obvious).
And the latest one “Special Interest is reserved for autistics.” (in spite of the term being used long before autism was even described in literature).
Then we get to “people with invisible disabilities suffer more than people with physical ones”. It requires a great deal of effort to fail to see how much society disables the physically disabled, but there are people willing to make that effort rather than look outside. We can be “different from them”.
Should we add “autism is not a mental illness, it’s just a different neurology” so we can throw the people who have “real” mental illness into the group of people that it is okay to stigmatize but keep us autistics safe.
“She’s not gay, she’s ace. She doesn’t need help from LGBT services, she can pass as straight.”
Keep adding separating terminology. Insist that no one can talk to us in words we understand. Don’t let them understand the words we use. Fight with each other instead of the things that cause us problems, it’s easier.
Fight, You Irish, Fight! While the English kill off your neighbors. The people who might have been able to help you survive if you hadn’t turned them into enemies.
It’s not the Irish and English now, but the effects are the same.
Divide and conquer still works. And it’s coming from within.